Losing a pet can feel disproportionate, disorienting, and difficult to explain — even to yourself.
For many people, this is not just grief.
It is the loss of something that was helping them stay psychologically steady.
Specialist psychological support for those experiencing intense, complex, or unexpected grief after pet loss.
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A short, psychologist-designed set of questions that shows which part of your grief is asking for attention right now — and what will help most.
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Your tailored toolkit
Ten modules of psychologist-designed tools and reflections, matched to the areas your loss has most disrupted.
See the toolkit →Why does this feel so overwhelming?
For many people, the intensity of pet loss comes as a shock.
"Why does this feel so much worse than I expected?"
This response is not random.
Pets often play a stabilising role in daily life — providing emotional regulation, structure, safety, and consistency.
When that is lost, it is not just the relationship that disappears. It is the system that helped you function and feel steady.
What you may be experiencing
This is often the point where people begin to realise:
"This is affecting more than I thought."
Structural Role Model of Pet Loss
The intensity of pet loss is not only about attachment. It is shaped by the role the relationship played in your psychological system.
For many people, pets are part of what keeps them regulated, grounded, and able to cope day-to-day. When that role is removed, the impact is not only emotional. It is structural.
This is the basis of the Structural Role Model of Pet Loss. It explains why the experience can feel:
- Disproportionate
- Disorienting
- Difficult to recover from
Even when you can't immediately explain why.
Where would you like to start?
However you've arrived here, there's a place to begin.
This is for you if…
This is particularly common in people who are otherwise coping well in other areas of life.
This is not just support. This is specialist psychological work.
My work focuses on helping you understand why your grief feels the way it does — and what is required to stabilise it.
Grounded in clinical psychology and informed by experience within NHS and specialist settings.
Ways to Work With Me
Four ways in, from a book you can read tonight to one-to-one therapy.
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The bookPet Bereavement and Grief
The complete psychological guide, to read at your own pace.
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The GENTLE Path course
Six modules of structured guided self-help, with audio practices, exercises and a printable workbook. Lifetime access.
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Individual therapy
Private one-to-one sessions for grief that has become hard to carry alone.
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Free resources
The Acute Grief Stabilisation Guide, the grief-type quiz, and the article library.
Browse free resourcesPet loss is often understood as emotional. But for many people, the impact is psychological and structural. My work focuses specifically on this.
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The First Fourteen Days
A day-by-day companion for the first two weeks after your pet dies: what to expect, what to lower the bar on, and small anchors to hold onto.
What's inside
A day-by-day companion · Why week two often feels worse · What to lower the bar on · Six ways to steady yourself · Small anchors to hold onto · When to seek help
Professional Services
Support for veterinary professionals and organisations managing the emotional impact of animal care and end-of-life decisions.
You don't need to keep trying to make sense of this on your own.
If your grief feels overwhelming, confusing, or difficult to move through, there is a way to understand it — and support to help you stabilise and move forward.
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If your grief feels overwhelming, confusing, or difficult to move through — or you simply have a question — reach out here.